His wrinkled right hand wrapped tight around a stick, Lhakpa, 74, sits on a roadside pavement near the Thimphu vegetable market, staring at no one in particular. LandCruisers zip by leaving a cloud of dust. The specks descend on his faded gho, dusty from days of sitting by the roadside. He lights a bidi, takes in a deep puff, and is ready to talk to Kuensel.
"Whether I’m alive or not doesn’t make any difference to my son," says Lhakpa.
Lhakpa came to Thimphu from Paro after he fell severely ill years ago. He spent months in Thimphu hospital. By the time he recovered, he learnt that his only son had sold the small house he owned in Paro and disowned him. His wife had died several years back. Lhakpa became a vagabond.
"I never have three meals a day," he said, adding that he is just praying for a peaceful death.
Lhakpa has many such friends with him: old people loitering around town, begging near monasteries or markets, and sleeping on the sidewalks.
What prompts these old people to leave their villages is their children, who have migrated to urban centres for work. With age fast catching up on them, and no one to look after them in the villages, they come to towns to spend their last days with their children.
Many land up being mistreated, as their children struggle to survive the high standard of living in towns. This is especially true where the children earn less. At times, the stubbornness of old parents resulted in ego clashes with their children, so they walked out of homes.
The issue, observers say, is the disintegration of traditional families into nuclear ones and whether there should be an old age home in Bhutan. There aren’t many agencies that have taken up the issue.
Tarayana Foundation, a non-government organisation, looks after the welfare of abandoned, disabled and mentally challenged people. They are paid a monthly stipend of Nu 500. It also disperses funds-to dzongkhags for such identified people in the villages. As of 2008, Tarayana supports 141 senior citizens and 73 people under special needs programme across the country.
The director of the national commission for women and children (NCWC), Dr Rinchen Chophel, said that NCWC handled people discarded by their families. NCWC was promoting the issue in every possible way, he said.
"The government should decide whether they can apply the concept of GNH equally for everyone, including discarded elderly people," said Dr Rinchen Chophel. "The concept shouldn’t just apply to those, who are happy, because they already have ways and means."
National Assembly (NA) member, Dupthob, said that, although Bhutan needs an old age home, the pros and cons should be studied well. He said that it might hurt the age-old traditional family bonds and values that most Bhutanese share, unlike in the west. "So, if there’s an old age home, chances of children dumping their parents are likely to increase."
NA member, Tshering Penjor, said: "We’re in talks with the government on the issue. But, personally, I feel that, if old age homes are established, they will be under-utilised. Our culture demands children to look after their parents in old age. However, it will be beneficial for homeless people, who don’t have children of their own."
National Councillor Justin Gurung said that, with the changing times, there were more nuclear families emerging with young couples seeking freedom. "I am of strong opinion that we should have a proper shelter to accommodate the helpless elderly people."
Meanwhile, NCWC has plans to start a transit shelter for the abandoned and discarded people by this July that may also include accommodation. [rc]
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June 23, 2009
BHUTAN: Number of old on the streets flies in face of GNH philosophy
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THIMPHU, Bhutan / Kuensel Daily News / June 23, 2009
GNH? That's Gross National Happiness
By Kinga Dema
His wrinkled right hand wrapped tight around a stick, Lhakpa, 74, sits on a roadside pavement near the Thimphu vegetable market, staring at no one in particular. LandCruisers zip by leaving a cloud of dust. The specks descend on his faded gho, dusty from days of sitting by the roadside. He lights a bidi, takes in a deep puff, and is ready to talk to Kuensel.
"Whether I’m alive or not doesn’t make any difference to my son," says Lhakpa.
Lhakpa came to Thimphu from Paro after he fell severely ill years ago. He spent months in Thimphu hospital. By the time he recovered, he learnt that his only son had sold the small house he owned in Paro and disowned him. His wife had died several years back. Lhakpa became a vagabond.
"I never have three meals a day," he said, adding that he is just praying for a peaceful death.
Lhakpa has many such friends with him: old people loitering around town, begging near monasteries or markets, and sleeping on the sidewalks.
What prompts these old people to leave their villages is their children, who have migrated to urban centres for work. With age fast catching up on them, and no one to look after them in the villages, they come to towns to spend their last days with their children.
Many land up being mistreated, as their children struggle to survive the high standard of living in towns. This is especially true where the children earn less. At times, the stubbornness of old parents resulted in ego clashes with their children, so they walked out of homes.
The issue, observers say, is the disintegration of traditional families into nuclear ones and whether there should be an old age home in Bhutan. There aren’t many agencies that have taken up the issue.
Tarayana Foundation, a non-government organisation, looks after the welfare of abandoned, disabled and mentally challenged people. They are paid a monthly stipend of Nu 500. It also disperses funds-to dzongkhags for such identified people in the villages. As of 2008, Tarayana supports 141 senior citizens and 73 people under special needs programme across the country.
The director of the national commission for women and children (NCWC), Dr Rinchen Chophel, said that NCWC handled people discarded by their families. NCWC was promoting the issue in every possible way, he said.
"The government should decide whether they can apply the concept of GNH equally for everyone, including discarded elderly people," said Dr Rinchen Chophel. "The concept shouldn’t just apply to those, who are happy, because they already have ways and means."
National Assembly (NA) member, Dupthob, said that, although Bhutan needs an old age home, the pros and cons should be studied well. He said that it might hurt the age-old traditional family bonds and values that most Bhutanese share, unlike in the west. "So, if there’s an old age home, chances of children dumping their parents are likely to increase."
NA member, Tshering Penjor, said: "We’re in talks with the government on the issue. But, personally, I feel that, if old age homes are established, they will be under-utilised. Our culture demands children to look after their parents in old age. However, it will be beneficial for homeless people, who don’t have children of their own."
National Councillor Justin Gurung said that, with the changing times, there were more nuclear families emerging with young couples seeking freedom. "I am of strong opinion that we should have a proper shelter to accommodate the helpless elderly people."
Meanwhile, NCWC has plans to start a transit shelter for the abandoned and discarded people by this July that may also include accommodation. [rc]
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His wrinkled right hand wrapped tight around a stick, Lhakpa, 74, sits on a roadside pavement near the Thimphu vegetable market, staring at no one in particular. LandCruisers zip by leaving a cloud of dust. The specks descend on his faded gho, dusty from days of sitting by the roadside. He lights a bidi, takes in a deep puff, and is ready to talk to Kuensel.
"Whether I’m alive or not doesn’t make any difference to my son," says Lhakpa.
Lhakpa came to Thimphu from Paro after he fell severely ill years ago. He spent months in Thimphu hospital. By the time he recovered, he learnt that his only son had sold the small house he owned in Paro and disowned him. His wife had died several years back. Lhakpa became a vagabond.
"I never have three meals a day," he said, adding that he is just praying for a peaceful death.
Lhakpa has many such friends with him: old people loitering around town, begging near monasteries or markets, and sleeping on the sidewalks.
What prompts these old people to leave their villages is their children, who have migrated to urban centres for work. With age fast catching up on them, and no one to look after them in the villages, they come to towns to spend their last days with their children.
Many land up being mistreated, as their children struggle to survive the high standard of living in towns. This is especially true where the children earn less. At times, the stubbornness of old parents resulted in ego clashes with their children, so they walked out of homes.
The issue, observers say, is the disintegration of traditional families into nuclear ones and whether there should be an old age home in Bhutan. There aren’t many agencies that have taken up the issue.
Tarayana Foundation, a non-government organisation, looks after the welfare of abandoned, disabled and mentally challenged people. They are paid a monthly stipend of Nu 500. It also disperses funds-to dzongkhags for such identified people in the villages. As of 2008, Tarayana supports 141 senior citizens and 73 people under special needs programme across the country.
The director of the national commission for women and children (NCWC), Dr Rinchen Chophel, said that NCWC handled people discarded by their families. NCWC was promoting the issue in every possible way, he said.
"The government should decide whether they can apply the concept of GNH equally for everyone, including discarded elderly people," said Dr Rinchen Chophel. "The concept shouldn’t just apply to those, who are happy, because they already have ways and means."
National Assembly (NA) member, Dupthob, said that, although Bhutan needs an old age home, the pros and cons should be studied well. He said that it might hurt the age-old traditional family bonds and values that most Bhutanese share, unlike in the west. "So, if there’s an old age home, chances of children dumping their parents are likely to increase."
NA member, Tshering Penjor, said: "We’re in talks with the government on the issue. But, personally, I feel that, if old age homes are established, they will be under-utilised. Our culture demands children to look after their parents in old age. However, it will be beneficial for homeless people, who don’t have children of their own."
National Councillor Justin Gurung said that, with the changing times, there were more nuclear families emerging with young couples seeking freedom. "I am of strong opinion that we should have a proper shelter to accommodate the helpless elderly people."
Meanwhile, NCWC has plans to start a transit shelter for the abandoned and discarded people by this July that may also include accommodation. [rc]
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