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March 31, 2008

CANADA: Lessons from the zoo – applied in the bedroom

The rules are simple. Reward the behaviour you want. Ignore the behaviour you don't want

TORONTO (Globe and Mail), March 31, 2008:

In the little, private zoo known as marriage, it helps to remind yourself that you and your partner are just two bipedal primates trying to get along in intimate co-habitation.

The trick, it turns out, is all in the training.

That's what Amy Sutherland discovered, and she didn't even have to learn to crack a whip.

Blame it on Shamu, the killer whale. “I was inspired by watching how they teach killer whales to do incredible behaviours, to leap out of the water on command,” Ms. Sutherland says over lunch recently in Toronto. “Think about it, they are the top predators in the ocean, and trainers can ride them. They can have a good relationship with them.”

Reprimanding won't solve your marital woes.
Treating him like a killer whale will,
says Amy Sutherland,
author of
What Shamu Taught me About Life, Love,
and Marriage


(Rafal Gerszak for The Globe and Mail)


Which caused her to ponder the world's oldest marital issue: How to train her husband, Scott, to pick up his dirty laundry off the floor.
Read on

By Sarah Hampson
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